In a world where almost all your batch mates have kids, your friends, nieces, students and some nephews are settling down, you begin to wonder “what’s really wrong with me.” Don’t force yourself to go with the flow, don’t force yourself to comply with norms. Don’t be bothered if others say you are too intimidating, all guys are afraid of you, you do things normal woman can’t do, you are too career oriented, your standards are too high, your hair color and hair style makes you look boyish, yada yada. Don’t give a shit if your relatives call you “matandang dalaga” (old maid) at 38 years old. It is your life not theirs. It is your own battle, your own happiness. You don’t owe anyone an explanation why at this age you are still single and unmarried. It never meant that you don’t want kids or have your own family. It never meant you are snobbish and too picky.
Maybe we are made to grow old on our own and we should accept that fact even how gloomy it may sound. Maybe nobody is meant to spend the rest of their lives with us. Maybe dogs are all we ever gonna have or call as kids. Maybe “honey” is really just a food sweetener and not a person. Maybe “babe” is just a movie title. Maybe we are meant to stand out and not conform with standards. Maybe we are meant to go against the flow and create a different current. Maybe happy ever after is excelling at your career to be of help to others; or maybe happy ever after is retiring as nomad and visiting all places you want to go. Maybe, just maybe, at 50 you will find your lifetime partner; or maybe you will never find one. Maybe its hard to understand why nobody wants to settle down and bring you to the altar despite all your friends say you are a “wife material”. Maybe you are too pressured with your biological clock. Maybe you are tired convincing yourself that the right guy will come along soon.
Maybe you got a thousand questions in mind with no answer. Maybe not all questions need an answer. Maybe there is really no such thing as happily ever after.
Happiness is a choice. Do what you love to do, do what makes you happy. Have a sense of purpose on what you do to feel more fulfilled. Break the rules, stand out from the crowd and don’t be bothered what other people say. Live your life to the fullest and always be open to new places, new experiences, and new circle of acquaintances and friends. Don’t be afraid to take risks and don’t stop looking for love. Love has a thousand or more meaning thus you shouldn’t only focus on your “love life” but focus more on your life freely giving away love.
Love begets love, positivity begets positivity. As Paulo Coelho says, “When you desire something, everything in the world conspires for you to achieve it.”
Be still my heart. Whatever you are going thru tonight shall pass. Everything will be alright, sooner or later.